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Could Adoption Be A True Act of Love?

LEGISLATION dictates that Social​ ​Workers​​ are required to​ ​inform
adoptive parents​ ​about​ ​the outcome of their​ ​efforts to Adopt
children​ ​only​ after​ ​the​ ​60-day​ ​mark.

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World renowned Motivational Speaker Les Brown was born with his twin
brother, Wesley, in an abandoned building in Liberty City, a
low-income section of Miami, Florida.

The twins were subsequently given up for Adoption and adopted by Mamie
Brown, a 38-year-old single woman who worked as a cafeteria attendant
and domestic
assistant.

Both the Brown brothers have turned out to be constructive,
well-rounded and upstanding members of society.

And Les calls himself “Mrs. Mamie Brown’s Baby Boy” and says that “All
that I am and all that I ever hoped to be, I owe to my mother”.

Les also goes on to share the many times his mother told them he loved
them and all her other children; and also gave them true love.

And yet in-spite of this great story of Adoption, it is generally
viewed as a given  to​ ​declare​​ that​ ​child​​ orphans​ ​ grow​ ​
up​ ​with​ ​a ​substantial​ ​ level​ ​ of confusion and feelings of
inadequacies,​ ​particularly​ ​when their​ ​ surroundings​ ​ abound
with ​their counterparts, children who have​ ​biological​ ​ parents,
rather​ ​than​ ​ Adopted​ ​ ones​ ​ like​ ​ themselves, expert opinion
suggests.

And they add that, as​ ​ noble​ ​ as​ ​ the​ ​ idea​ ​of adoption
might seem,​ ​ it ​ is​ ​ regarded as one​ ​ of the​ ​ most​ ​
complicated​ ​processes​ ​of acquiring a family for​ ​ the​ ​
individual​ ​ or​ ​
individuals​ ​ who intend​ ​ to​ ​ adopt​ ​and​ ​ subsequently,​ the​
​potential adoptee.

Adoption experts​ ​and vulnerable children scholars confirm​ ​that​ ​
this process​ ​ entails a procedure whereby​ ​ an individual​
​assumes​ ​the parental role ​ of​ ​ another,​ ​ usually​ ​ a ​ ​
minor,​​ from​ ​ that​ ​person’s​ ​ biological​ ​ or​ ​ legal​ ​
parent or​​ parents.​ ​More often than not,​ all​ ​ rights​  and​
​responsibilities ​are permanently​ ​transferred, along​ ​ with​
​filiation,​ ​ from​ ​ the​ ​ biological​ ​
parent​ ​or​ ​ parents to the adoptees.

Unlike​ ​ guardianship​ ​ or other​ ​ systems​ ​ designed​ ​ for​
​the​ ​care​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​ young,​ ​ experts​ ​ are of the view
that,​ ​adoption​ ​is intended​ ​ to​ ​ effect​ ​ a ​ ​permanent​ ​
change​ ​ in​ ​status of the parties involved.​ ​ This transformation​
​ requires​ ​ societal recognition,​ ​ either​ ​ through​ ​ legal​ ​
or​ ​ religious​ ​sanction.

“Both​ ​ biological​ ​ parents​ ​ must​ ​ consent​ ​ to​ ​the​ ​
child​ ​being​ ​ adopted,”​ ​says​​ Kirstine Stewart,​ ​senior​ ​
social​ ​ worker​ ​ at​ ​ Impilo​ ​ Adoption​ ​ Agency​ ​ &​ ​ Child​
​ Protection
Services,  a Gauteng-based non-profit organization.​ ​

Stewart further states that biological​ ​ parents legally​ ​ have​ ​
60​ ​days​ ​ to​ ​ confirm​ ​their​ ​ decision while​ ​ the​ ​ child​
​ is kept​ ​ at​ ​ a ​ ​ place​ ​ of​ ​ safety​ ​during​ ​ this​ ​
time.​ ​

Legislation dictates that Social​ ​ Workers​​ are required to​ ​
inform adoptive parents​ ​ about​ ​the outcome of their​ ​efforts to
adopt children​ ​only​ after​ ​the​ ​60-day​ ​mark.​ ​ When the
results are positive, the​ ​ children​ ​are consequently placed​ ​
with​ ​ the​ ​new​ ​ parents​ ​ within ​ approximately​ ​ three​
months.

Global​ ​ research​ ​ further​ ​ notes that, ​ historically,​ ​some​ ​
societies​ ​have​​ passed specific ​ ​ laws​ ​governing​ ​ Adoption;​
​and​ ​ where​ ​ others​ ​ have​ ​ attempted​ ​to​ ​achieve adoption​

through​ ​ less​ ​formal​ ​means,​ ​notably​ ​via​ ​contracts​  that​
​ specified inheritance​ ​ rights​ ​ and​ ​ parental​ ​
responsibilities​ ​without​ ​ any​ ​ accompanying​ ​ transfer of​ ​
filiation.  For example,
the​ ​Code​ ​ of​ ​ Hammurabi, a​ ​ well-preserved​ ​ Babylonian​ ​
code​ ​of​ ​ law​ ​ of​ ​ ancient Mesopotamia,​ ​ dating​ ​ back​ ​
to​ ​about​ ​ 1754​ ​ BC​ ​ states:​ “arising in​ ​ the​ ​ 20th​
​century,​ ​ modern​ ​systems​ ​ of​ ​ adoption​ ​ tend​ ​ to​ ​ be​
​governed​ ​ by comprehensive​ ​ statutes​ ​ and​ ​ regulations.”
These​​ legal​ ​ records​ show​ ​ that​ ​ the​ ​ modern​ ​ form​ ​ of​
​adoption​ ​ emerged​ ​ in​
​ the United​ ​ States,​ ​ although these forms​ ​ of​ ​this ​
practice​ ​appeared​ ​ throughout​ ​ history.

The​ ​ South African Government Gazette has mandated the Child​ Care​
​Act​ ​ of​ ​ 1983 in which “a ​ ​ child​ ​ may​ ​be​ ​ adopted​ ​ by​
​ a​ married couple​ ​in​ ​ a ​ ​joint​ ​adoption;​ ​ a ​person​ ​
who​ ​ has​
​ married​ ​ the​ ​ parent​ ​of​ ​ a ​child​ ​ can adopt​ ​ the​ ​
child,​ ​ with​ ​ the​ ​biological​ ​ parent’s​ ​ consent;​ ​ a ​
​single​ ​person​ ​ can​ ​adopt​ ​ a child.” ​ This​ ​ is​ ​ called​ ​
the​ ​adoption​ of​ ​a​ stepchild.

Furthermore,​ ​any​ ​ child​ ​ may​ ​ be​ ​ adopted​ ​provided​ ​
that​ ​he/she​ ​ is​ ​ under​ ​ the​ ​ age​ ​ of​ ​ 18 years​ ​ and​ ​
has​ ​been​ ​ abandoned​ ​ or​ ​ orphaned.​ ​ If​ ​the​ child’s​
​parents​ ​are​ still​ ​ alive, both​ ​ parents​ ​should give
​consent. Writing from the United States of America, another
non-profit organization Gift of Life, which is based in Florida,
proclaims that:

“Due​ ​ consideration​ ​to​ ​cultural​ ​ differences​ ​ in​ ​
placements​ ​– including​ ​language​ ​ and​ ​   religion,​ ​ however,
cross-cultural​ ​placements​ ​ are​ ​ not outlawed. The​ ​ age​ ​ of​
​ the​ ​adoptive​ ​
parent/s​ ​ will​ ​ be​ ​ taken​ ​ into​ ​consideration. Adoption​ ​
may​ take​ ​ place​ ​ via​ ​ social​ ​ workers​ ​ – ​ ​usually​ ​ at ​
private​ adoption agencies​ ​ – ​​ or​ ​ via​ ​non-profit​ ​
government​ ​ organizations. In​ ​ non-abandonment​ ​adoptions,​ ​
the​ ​ birth​ ​mother​ ​ has​ ​ 60​ ​days​ ​ from​ ​the​ ​ time​ ​ of​
​ the birth​ ​ in​
​ which​ ​ she​ ​ may​ ​ change​​ her​ ​ mind​ ​ about​ ​putting​
​her​ ​child​ ​ up​ ​ for​ ​adoption.”

Most​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​ adoptions​ ​ in​ ​ South​ ​ Africa​ ​stem​ ​
from​ abandoned​ ​ babies.​ ​ In​ ​these cases​ ​ it​ ​might​ take​​
up​ ​to​ eight​ ​ months​ ​ before​ ​ the​ ​ child can​ ​ be​ ​
released​ ​ from​ a ​place of​ ​ safety​ ​whilst​ ​Social​ ​ Workers​
​ attempt​ ​ to​ ​trace​ ​ the​ ​ biological​ ​parents.

Eloise​ ​ Loots,​ ​ executive​ ​ social​ ​ worker​ ​at​ ​Procare​ ​ –
​ ​a ​ ​national​ ​ adoption​ ​ agency has the view that:​
​”Applicants​ ​ must​  also​ ​ be​ ​ realistic:​ ​ if​ ​ you’re​
​adopting​ ​ at​ ​ a ​ ​late​ age,​ ​will​ ​ you​ ​ be able​ ​ to​
​manage​ ​ a ​ teenager​ ​ when​ you’re​ ​in your 70s?” Loots​, who is
in her 40’s adopted​ ​her​ son​ ​17​ ​years​ ​ ago.

Focusing on criminal offences, Ruth​ ​dos​ ​ Santos​ ​ of​ ​ The​
​Adoption​ ​ Companion,​ ​ a ​ ​national​ ​ adoption​ ​ information
service​ has a positive inclination towards criminal offenders,​ ​ “A​
​ person​ ​with​ ​ a ​ ​ criminal​ ​ record​​ can​ ​ adopt,​ ​
depending​ ​on​ ​ the​ nature of​ ​ their​ ​crime.​ ​ For​ ​ example,​
​ a ​ person​ ​ who​ ​ has​ ​ a ​ ​drunk-driving​ ​ charge​ ​ three​ ​
to five​ ​ years​ ​ before​
​adopting​ ​ can​ ​ be​ ​ considered​ ​ if​ ​ there’s​ ​ no​ ​ repeat​
​ offense​ ​ and​ ​ the Social​ ​ Worker​ ​ determines​ ​ the​ ​
person​ ​is​ ​rehabilitated.”​ ​ Dos Santos​ ​ further​ ​ advises​ ​
that you​ ​ should ​ first​ ​ find​ ​ out​ ​ as​ ​ much​ ​ as​ ​
possible​ ​about​ ​ Adoption.​ ​ “Meet​ ​ others​ ​ who’ve adopted,​ ​
join​ ​ Facebook​ ​ adoption​ ​ groups​ ​ and​ ​ ask​ ​questions,”​
​she​ says.​ ​ Talking​ to others ​ ​ will​ ​ also​ ​ help​ ​ you​ ​
to​ ​ find​ ​ an​ ​ agency​  or​ ​ private​ ​ Social​ ​ Worker.

“It’s​ ​ a ​ ​child-centred​ ​approach​ ​ – ​ ​ we’re​ ​ not​ ​
searching​ ​ for​ ​ babies​ for​ ​parents,​ ​ we’re searching​ ​for​
​suitable​ ​adoptive​ ​ parents​​ for​ ​adoptable​ ​ children,”​ ​
​Steward​ ​ reiterates.

The​ ​ experts​​ further​ ​ explain​ ​ that​ ​ after​ ​ making​ ​
the​​ call​, ​some​ ​ agencies​ ​ allow​ ​ parents to​ ​ visit​ ​ the​
​child​ ​for​ ​ a few​ ​ days​ ​ before​ ​ he​ ​ or​ ​ she​ ​ is​ ​
legally​ ​placed​ ​ in​ ​ their​ ​ care. As​ ​ revealed​ ​ by​ ​
Scielo​ ​South​ ​ Africa,​ ​ “Others​ ​ who​ ​ don’t​ ​ have​ ​ that​
​ system​​ tell​ ​ the new​ ​ parents​ ​ about​ ​ the​ ​ child​ ​ and​
​ the​ ​routine​ ​ before​ ​ you​ ​ can​ ​ take​ ​him​ ​or​ ​her​
​home.”

The​ ​ Social​ ​ Worker​ ​ files​ ​ all​ ​ the​ ​ documentation​ ​
with​ ​the​ ​Children’s​ ​ Court​ ​ in​ ​ your​ ​ area​ ​ and the​
​adoptive​ ​ parents​ ​ go​ ​ to​ ​court​ ​ to​ ​ sign​ ​ the​
​application​ ​ form​ ​ to​ ​ have​ ​ the adoption​ ​ order​
​granted.​ ​ The​ ​ order​ ​ stipulates​ ​ that​ ​ the​ ​ surname​
​of​ ​ the​ ​ adoptive parents​ ​
can​ ​ be​ ​ given​ ​ to​ the​ ​child​ ​ but​ ​ this​ ​ doesn’t​ ​
officially​ ​ happen​ ​ until​ ​Home Affairs​ ​ changes​ ​ the​ ​
child’s​ ​ surname​ ​ in​ ​ the​ ​population​ ​ register.​ ​ The​ ​
adoption​ ​ order is​ ​ sent​ ​ to​​ the​ ​ registrar​ ​ of​ ​
adoptions​ ​ in​ ​ Pretoria​, South Africa ​ to​ ​ be​ ​registered​ ​
and​ ​ is​ ​ posted​ ​
to the​ ​ parents. When​ ​ the​ ​adoption​ ​ order​ ​ is​ ​
registered,​ ​ the​ ​ child​ ​ is​ ​officially​ ​ yours​ ​ – ​ ​ in​ ​
terms​ ​ of the​ ​ law​ ​ it’s​ ​as​ ​ if​ ​ the​ ​ child​ ​ were​ ​
born​ ​ to​ ​ you.​ ​ You​ ​ now​ apply​ ​ to​ ​ Home​ ​ Affairs​ ​
for​ ​ the official​ ​ name​ ​change​ ​ and​ ​ new​ ​ birth​ ​
certificate.​ ​ This​ ​ could​ ​take​ ​ four​ ​ to​ ​ 18​ ​ months.”

In an​​ unfortunate​ ​turn​ ​ of​ ​events,​ ​ is​ the​ ​case​​ of​ ​
GT​ ​v ​ CT​ ​ [2015]​ ​ 3 ​ ​ALL​ ​ SA​ ​ 631​ ​ (GJ).

“Two​ ​ children​ ​ had​ ​ been​ ​ legally​ ​ adopted​ ​ by​ ​ their​​
stepfather​ ​ while​ ​ the​ ​ Child​ ​ Care Act​ ​ was​ ​ in​ ​
operation.​ ​ After​ ​ the​ ​ implementation​ ​of​ ​ the​ ​
Children’s​ ​ Act​ ​ 38​ ​ of​ ​ 2005, however,​ ​ he​ ​ applied​ ​
for​ ​ these​ ​ adoption​ ​ orders​ ​ to​​ be​ ​ rescinded.​ ​ The​ ​
court​ ​ was faced​ ​ with​ ​ a ​
​ situation​ ​ where​ ​ the​ ​ application​ ​had​ ​ been​ ​ brought​ ​
in​ ​ contravention of​ ​ the​ ​ maximum​ ​ two-year-period​ ​ as​ ​
prescribed​ ​ by​ ​the​ ​ Children’s​ ​ Act.​ ​ Although​ ​ it was​ ​
argued​ ​ that​ ​ non-compliance​ ​ with​ ​ this​ ​ statutory​
requirement​ ​ prevented​ ​ the court​ ​ from​ ​ adjudicating​ ​ this​
​ matter,​ ​ Mokgoatlheng​ ​ J​ ​ focused​ ​ on​ ​ the​ ​ best​ ​
interests of​ ​ the​ ​ child,​ ​ considered​ ​ the​ ​ legality​ ​ of​
​ the​ ​adoption​ ​ orders​,​ ​ and​ ​ ultimately concluded​ ​ that​ ​
the​ ​ supremacy​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​ best​ ​interests​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​
child​ ​ meant​  that​ ​ he​ ​ was not​ ​ precluded​ ​ from​ ​
hearing​ ​ the​ ​
application.​ ​ In​ ​the​ ​ end​ ​ he​ ​ ordered​ ​ the​ ​ rescission
of ​ ​ the​ ​ adoption​ ​ orders.​ ​ The​ ​ judgment​ ​ cannot​ ​ be​
supported.”

Themba​ ​ Skosana​ ​ and​ ​ Sandra​ ​ Ferreira​ ​ two​ ​academics​ ​
from​  the​ ​ University​ ​ of​ ​ South​ ​ Africa, who​ ​compiled​ ​
the​ ​ case​ ​ study,​ ​ concluded​ ​ that​, ​ had​ ​there​ ​ been​ ​
a ​ ​statutory​ ​ requirement​ ​ for the​ ​counseling​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​
parents​ ​ by​ ​ the​ ​ adoptions​ ​social​ ​ worker​ ​ facilitating​
​ the​ ​ adoptions before​ ​ they​ ​were​ ​ granted,​ ​ the​ ​
adoption​ ​ might​ ​ never​ ​ have​ ​happened​ ​ in​ ​ the​ ​ first​ ​
place.

“Unfortunately​ ​ at​ ​ the​​ time​ ​ there​ ​ was​ ​ no​  such​
​requirement. The​ ​ impression​​ left​ ​ by​ ​ this judgment​ ​ is​ ​
that​ there​ ​ was​ ​ some​ ​kind​ ​ of​ ​ collusion​ ​ or​ ​
scheming​ ​ against​ ​ the​ ​stepfather when​ ​ the​ ​ adoptions​ ​
were​ ​ granted​ ​ and​ ​ that​​ the​ ​ court​ ​ looked​ ​ for​ ​ a
way​ ​ to​ ​ “right​ ​
this wrong”.​ ​ Even​ ​ if​ ​ this​ ​ was​ ​ so​ ​ and​ ​ it​ ​ was​
​true​​ that​ ​ the​ ​ adoptions​ ​ had​ ​ been​ ​”forged​ ​ on​ ​ an
unsound​ ​ legal​ ​ and​ ​ moral​ ​ foundation” and​ ​ had​ ​ been​
​”engineered​ ​by​ ​ the​ ​ first​ ​ respondent with​ ​ the​
​connivance​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​second​ ​ respondent​ ​ and​ ​ the​
​compliance​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​ applicant”​ it​ ​ has no​ ​ bearing​ ​on​
​ the​ ​ matter,​ ​ as​ ​ the​ ​ mind-set​ ​ of​ ​ the​ ​parties,​ ​
or​ ​ the​ ​ driving​ ​ force​ ​behind​ ​ the applications,​ ​ is​ ​
not​ ​ relevant​ ​ or​ ​ a ​ ​ factor​ ​ for​ ​the​ ​ rescission​ ​
of​ ​ an​ ​ adoption​ ​ order.​ ​ ​ The requirements​ ​ for​ ​ the​ ​
rescission​ ​ of​ ​ an​ ​ adoption​ ​order​ ​ are​ ​ objective​ ​ and​
​ not​ ​ in​ ​ any​ ​ way influenced​ ​ by​​ the​​ purpose​ ​ or​ ​
reason​ ​ for​ ​ the​ ​application,”​  Skosana ​ and​ ​ Ferreira​ ​
found.

Indeed, it would be fair to argue that Adoption is a true act of love.

PS: This is an Updated article by the Writer that appeared in BONA
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